Upcoming Events
Shibari Wednesdays: Sept 23
Join our rope social and growing community of shibari enthusiasts in North County. This is a social event for all skill levels, open to Incognito SD members & non-members.
Attire is casual, light and comfortable.
Munch social only, no play or use of the dungeon.
Snacks and drinks provided.
You may bring an adult beverage of your choice, but no hard liquor.
Rope will be provided for lend or sale, or bring your own if you have it.
$15 for members, $30 for non-members.
Non-members who attend will have a BOGO opportunity to purchase 1 month of membership and get 1 month free - be sure to look for the QR displayed at check-in!
Focus Fridays: Flogging
Part 2 of our Focus Friday workshops with host and co-owner, Mr. McCoy. The focus of this class will be flogging with technical demonstration and participation. All skill levels are welcome to attend and partners are not required!
Light snacks and drinks provided.
Floggers will be lent out during practice, but feel free to bring your own!
Doors close at 7:15 for orientation before the class begins.
Materials: Participants are encouraged to bring drinks, snacks, personal impact toys, a blanket, and any aftercare items they might need.
$40 for registered members, $50 for non-members.
Detailed class syllabus is at the bottom of this page.
Shibari Wednesdays: Oct 7
Join our rope social and growing community of shibari enthusiasts in North County. This is a social event for all skill levels, open to Incognito SD members & non-members.
Attire is casual, light and comfortable.
Munch social only, no play or use of the dungeon.
Snacks and drinks provided.
You may bring an adult beverage of your choice, but no hard liquor.
Rope will be provided for lend or sale, or bring your own if you have it.
$15 for members, $30 for non-members.
Non-members who attend will have a BOGO opportunity to purchase 1 month of membership and get 1 month free - be sure to look for the QR displayed at check-in!
Shibari Wednesdays: Oct 21
Join our rope social and growing community of shibari enthusiasts in North County. This is a social event for all skill levels, open to Incognito SD members & non-members.
Attire is casual, light and comfortable.
Munch social only, no play or use of the dungeon.
Snacks and drinks provided.
You may bring an adult beverage of your choice, but no hard liquor.
Rope will be provided for lend or sale, or bring your own if you have it.
$15 for members, $30 for non-members.
Non-members who attend will have a BOGO opportunity to purchase 1 month of membership and get 1 month free - be sure to look for the QR displayed at check-in!
Sleepy Hollow: Wide Awake
"Villainy wears many masks, none so dangerous as the mask of virtue."
Spooky season at Incognito SD features our first annual Play Party, Sleepy Hollow: Wide Awake. This is a swinger forward party with BDSM features and spaces.
Designated dungeon access included.
Light snacks and non-alcoholic refreshments provided.
$150 for couples, $100 for single males, and $75 for single females.
Open to both members and non-members but all attendees must apply for vetting to be eligible to purchase tickets.
Apply for invitation at incognitosd.com/sleepyhollow. Use the password sleepyhollow when prompted.
More details coming soon.
Shibari Wednesdays: Sept 9
Join our rope social and growing community of shibari enthusiasts in North County. This is a social event for all skill levels, open to Incognito SD members & non-members.
Attire is casual, light and comfortable.
Munch social only, no play or use of the dungeon.
Snacks and drinks provided.
You may bring an adult beverage of your choice, but no hard liquor.
Rope will be provided for lend or sale, or bring your own if you have it.
$15 for members, $30 for non-members.
Non-members who attend will have a BOGO opportunity to purchase 1 month of membership and get 1 month free - be sure to look for the QR displayed at check-in!
CAPACITY IS always LIMITED, SO GET YOUR TICKETS WHILE THEY’RE STILL AVAILABLE!
Membership capacity, however, is not limited!
For more information about membership and to apply please visit our memberships page or click the button below. The process is quick, so do it now!
Focus Fridays Syllabi & Class Overview
Focus Fridays classes will all include the following instructional content:
Warm-Up Techniques: Importance of warming up the bottom.
Body Language: Signs to look for during play and how to ensure safety.
Aftercare Techniques: Discussing aftercare and negotiating it beforehand.
Class specific content as listed below.
Each class will then conclude with the following:
Partner Practice: The hands on portion where students break into pairs or groups for practice. Solo participants will have alternatives.
Instructor Guidance: your instructor will roam around to offer real-time feedback.
Class 1: Impact 101
Overview: This class introduces participants to the fundamentals of impact play, covering techniques, safety, and aftercare.
Specific Content:
Understanding Impact: Difference between “stingy” and “thuddy” sensations.
How to administer both techniques.
Hands-On Techniques: How to spank or punch safely
Beginner Toys: Introduction to paddles and crops.
Class 2: Flogging Basics and Intermediate
Overview: This session delves deeper into flogging techniques, including both basic and intermediate skills.
Specific Content:
Understanding Impact (review)
Flogging Techniques: Demonstration and instructions on how to flog effectively.
Discussion of Florentine flogging (two-handed technique) based on experience level.
Class 3: Fire Wands
Overview: This class focuses on fire play safety and technique using wands aka torches.
Specific Content:
Fire Safety: Essential safety measures and preparations before fire play.
Product Safety: Discussion of what products and materials to use for fire wands and what NOT to use on your bottom.
Demonstration: Techniques on how fire acts and reacts to the body specifically with wands.
Class 4: Fire Bubbles
Overview: This session explores the exciting and safe use of fire bubbles in play.
Specific Content:
Fire Safety (review)
Product Safety: Discussion of what products and materials to use for fire bubbles and what NOT to use on your bottom.
Demonstration: Techniques on how fire acts and reacts to the body specifically with bubbles.